- A kiss on the cheek. My husband came and gave me a kiss on the cheek this morning, just because 🙂 Love those kind.
- First swim! Webby took Violet swimming for the first time today! She was enjoying it to begin with before she got splashed by a very excited Xander! I need to get a costume sorted so I can join them in the pool next time!
- Bugs & daisies. As we were leaving the house this afternoon we saw a butterfly! Then some ladybirds, and then noticed lots of daisies had popped up! Been much milder today with a gusty breeze! The wind is one of my favourite types of weather 🙂
- Quasimodo boob.. is feeling better! Relieved as was conscious of it turning into mastitis or worse an abscess!
- Yet more de-cluttering! It’s amazing that we still have things to part with! Another two bin bags of clothes went to charity today, Millie and Xander joined in too, sorting their own clothes into piles of too small, don’t wear and keep.
Five positive things.
1. Simple things. We brought a few toys on holiday with us for Violet but today she’s had the most fun sitting in the laundry basket full of clothes, being pulled round by Xander! Also she loves labels so was sat fiddling with the label on her blanket, glad I didn’t just snip it off! Then at lunchtime she got very excited about a crisp packet after getting over being scared of the crinkling noise!!
2. Up the hill. It’s very hilly round here on the coast of mid-Wales, Webby fancied climbing one that was close by, I was a little off put by the steepness of the incline since I was wearing Violet but it seems the running is paying off and I managed it without my inhaler! We were rewarded with fantastic views from the top!
3. Breastfeeding. This is the longest I’ve breastfed any of my children. I’m thoroughly enjoying it and wish I’d persevered at it with Millie and Xander! Today while so were climbing the hill
of doom Violet was getting a bit upset so I loosened the wrap and dropped her down to boob level and fed her on the go, wasn’t long before she was snoozing away, snug as a bug!
4. Handwritten post. These days it’s rare to get a handwritten piece of mail aside from birthday cards, and even they are dwindling thanks to text messages and Facebook, though in my case I’ve used them as a means of sending birthday wishes on time as I’m often not on the ball with birthday card sending organisation! But I’m working on that now I’m using Phoenix Cards! Anyway gone off in a tangent… Millie asked if she could get a couple of postcards and beautifully wrote them out and popped them in the post today! The lucky recipients should be receiving them in a couple of days and it will no doubt be the first hand written post they’ve had in a while and put a smile in their face!
5. Sand castles. We all got stuck in building a sand castle on the beach today! It had a bridge and everything! Just think, we’re creating the kids’ holiday memories, I hope they remember them to be as happy as I do!
My five positives today:
1. Ice creams at the beach. Despite the bitter wind we couldn’t resist homemade ice cream! Hard to choose a flavour (they had some different ones like Malteser and Fererro Rocher) but I went with white chocolate, which was delicious, Millie and Xander had mint choc chip and Webby had coffee. Next time I think I’m going to try Devon fudge or apple & blackberry crumble! What’s your favourite flavour?
2. New experiences. Part of the joy of having a young baby is the opportunity for so many new experiences! Today was Violet’s first time exploring sand! Millie was digging with her hands next to her and she thought it was hilarious! Must of been exhausting, this beach business, she zonked a few minutes after being put in her push chair!
3. Moving forward. Webby and I have been discussing the next step of our decluttering and how we still have a lot of stuff we can throw out. I’ve also been reading more of ‘You can buy happiness’, the author like my husband has done the 100 items challenge and I’m thinking of giving it a go! Or at least, like she says, writing down a list of my possessions may make me realise the things I could live without. I feel quite inspired to be ruthless about any further decluttering in order to be less distracted by stuff and gain more precious time to enjoy what really makes people happy – experiences and relationships.
4. Salad. And oven baked potatoes and corn on the cob both with just butter and salt. Simple, fresh, easy, healthy, tasty food!
5. Perfect day. As my husband said, today has been a perfect day! Sunshine, crochet, reading, walk to the local shops, games, naps, ice creams, fun on the beach, family time, good food, Easter eggs and love!
It has been a while since my last post in May last year. A lot has happened! Probably the biggest event is the birth of our daughter Violet in August last year! She’s now 7 months and we seem to have passed the turning upside down of life that newborns seem to bring! She’s a gem and her big brother and sister adore her!
More recently I’ve started a journey to a simpler life. My husband in recent years has been doing the 100 items project, whereby you only have 100 personal items. A couple of months ago he went on a course at work that sort of tied in with this and completely changed the way he looked at life. You can see his blog about it here! It was very inspiring and the decluttering and thinking ‘less is more’ rubbed off on me too. We’ve spent the last few weekends sorting through belongings and giving away or selling things we don’t use, need or like! That bit was fairly easy, once you got past the barriers such as ‘but someone bought that for us’, or ‘what if I might need it one day’.. Just let it go, its all just stuff! Yesterday I read a short book called ‘Living in the Land of Enough’ and started reading another called ‘You Can Buy Happiness (and It’s Cheap): How One Woman Radically Simplified Her Life and How You Can Too’. After finishing the first one I deleted my Twitter account and many of the apps on my phone.. including Facebook. It made me consider how much time I flutter away on the internet and how being constantly plugged in via my iPhone made it too easy to do! I’ve not deleted my FB account, but not to be constantly connected to it, is refreshing!
In the chapter I’m reading now, it asks you to write down what your definition of happiness is. The first thing that comes to my mind is my family – the man I’ve chosen to spend my life with and the three children we have brought into the world. Having them in my life makes me happy. Spending quality time with them – going for walks, the park, having a cup of tea in the M&S cafe with them, listening to the children play & laugh with each other, listening to them tell me about their day, watching a film, having my husband at home at weekends and holidays, watching our baby learn new skills, I could go on! Then, spending time with other family and friends, cups of teas and catching up, homemade cakes or dinners just because! There are other things that bring me happiness – reading, photography, baking etc but those I could live without, the relationships I hold dear I could not.
Next the book asks ‘how can you simplify your life?’ We’ve started this already by decluttering! Stuff is distracting and most of the stuff is useless and we don’t miss it! Even the kids got involved and decluttered their toys, so now they have space and can see the ones they like playing with, they’e not hidden amongst a barrage of toys they didn’t play with!
Turn off technology. Its easy to get stuck in the habit of watching TV every night, or browsing Facebook or Twitter – more distractions! Turn them off every now and again and see what else you could be doing! We often think that TV is rubbish these days so we just turn it off and read or something instead!
Organise! I’m terrible for forgetting to pick up and send birthday cards and/presents! Especially with having young children who get invited to parties, I often find myself having to go out on the day of the party to find gifts! Would be a lot less stressful if I had them ready in advance! Same with housework, I tend to wait until someone needs something out the ironing pile before I do it! Instead I’d like to try and do a bit of housework everyday and keep on top of it!
Simple, healthy food. Fresh fruit and vegetables. Less processed food.
Say no and don’t feel guilty. It’s ok not to want to do something! Don’t do things just because I think I should. It’s a waste of time and probably a source of negative feeling so I should just say no (thank you)!
I’m sure there are plenty more ways I could simplify life but they are the ones I can think of straight away!
Something I’ve picked up from the first book was to keep a journal. The author tried to stick to 5 things each day that she was grateful for. I think I’d like to try and do something similar, maybe 5 positives from my day.. So for today:
- Ran for 25 minutes! With the pushchair. I’m currently doing the NHS Couch to 5K program, today was the first time I’d run that length of time without stopping!
- Phoenix card delivery. The other week I ordered all my birthday and anniversary cards for the year and they were delivered today! This will help me be more organised as mentioned above!
- Baked some cakes! Cinnamon muffins, they’re not bad! Also introduced the kids to semolina for pudding tonight, Millie and Violet approved! Xander, not so much!
- Gave my brother a hug to congratulate him on the birth of his second child. Hugs are good 🙂
- Silly sentences. I did bedtime with the kids tonight, usually my husband does the bedtime story but he’s away tonight so I had the pleasure! They chose The Gruffalo and The Gruffalo’s Child and then we were making up silly sentences! Lovely!